Longing for what?
Days gone by? That may or may not have been so great.
Or a future of greatness? That may or may not come true.
Too much of the first brings on depression of things you cannot change.
Too much of the second brings on anxiety of things you cannot control.
You need to let go of who you were so that you can become who you want to be.
Longing is not a bad thing. It can be the driver to make your life better.
It can be the driver to create the goals that move you forward in life.
Long to be better each day. Long to be more humble. Long to be more empathetic. Long to be more wise. Long to be more understanding.
“Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be, be one.” -Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, X.16
Focus on making your life better, by being better. Not on external factors that you cannot control.
“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things that are beyond the power of our will.” – Epictetus, Enchidrion, 1
If you remember the story, an acorn falls on Chicken Little’s head. She believes the sky is falling. She runs around the farm frantically.
She meets others along the way and convinces them the sky is falling. They must tell the king. Even though many question whether the sky is falling they continue on. Until they follow Chicken Little into being dinner for Mr. Fox.
Nowadays the sky always seems to be falling. It seems to be the default attitude of many. They convince others the sky is falling.
No one questions. People blindly follow, just like the others in the story of Chicken Little. Then when the crisis doesn’t happen. The Chicken Littles find a new crisis to cluck about.
“If you wish to improve, be content to appear clueless or stupid in extraneous matters – don’t wish to seem knowledgeable.” – Epictetus, Enchidrion, 13a.
We don’t need to be aware of every “crisis.” Some things are best ignored. Not everything is a crisis.
Some “crises” are not worth our time. If it is something that you are passionate about then learn about it deeply. Don’t blindly follow the social media influencer or cable news show that wants your attention by saying something shocking.
Go to the source. Read deeply about it. On the issue listen and/or read people who you disagree with. You may still not agree with them but you may learn something new.
You may find out the “crisis” you were so concerned about is no crisis at all. It is easy just to listen to sound bites or Tweets or Facebook posts and not really delve into the facts.
It is hard to dig into an issue completely. The alternative is much worse. Blindly following someone who “clucks” the loudest may mean you end up as someone else’s dinner.