Amor Fati

Amor Fati means love one’s fate.

Friedrich Nietzsche created the idea.

“That one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backwards, not in all eternity. Not merely bear what is necessary, still less conceal it….but love it.” – Friedrich Nietzsche

When life is going good Amor Fati is easy. All’s good. No reason to regret anything. Loving life.

When life starts throwing challenges at you that’s when Amor Fati becomes difficult.

But if you read Nietzsche’s quote carefully he doesn’t say love your fate when it’s easy. He says “one wants nothing to be different.”

Everything happens for a reason. We may not be able to see or comprehend it at the time, but the reason is there.

Bad things will happen. That’s inevitable. Why try to pretend they won’t?

We would all love life to go our way all the time. That’s not reality.

“Do not seek for things to happen the way you want them to; rather, wish that what happens happen the way it happens: then you will be happy.” – Epictetus

As much as we try, we do not control what happens to us. We only control our response to what happens.

Why be miserable? It is what it is, and it will be what it will be.

Life is too short not to love that you are alive.

Every day is a gift. Even the bad ones.

Mistakes

“All men make mistakes, only wise men learn from their mistakes” -Winston Churchill.

Learning only comes from failure. We learn very little when things are going our way. We have to be uncomfortable to see any reason to change. Nothing can make you as uncomfortable as making a mistake.

“Forgive yourself of your faults and your mistakes and move on” – Les Brown

Once you have taken your mistake and learned from it, you have to let it go. There is a delicate balance between remembering your mistake so you don’t do it again and beating yourself up over it.

Self-forgiveness is difficult. We have a constant tape running in our head. Most times we are our own worst critics.

“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche.

When you screw up fall back on your why. Why do you do what you do? That is the North Star that will guide you back to your path.