Grace

We can all use a little grace in our lives. Grace towards each other and towards ourselves.

What does grace even mean?

It can mean approval, mercy, favor, benevolence, or goodwill.

Grace can come from God, another person, or yourself.

It means to believe in the person even if they have done wrong.

It is man’s peculiar duty to love even those who wrong him. — Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 7.22

God’s grace is given freely.

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9, Daily Verse

We don’t have to ask God for grace. It is just given

“Grace doesn’t ask you to fix yourself first. It meets you exactly where the fixing hasn’t happened yet.” – Daily Verse

We should learn from this example. Grace should be given freely to those around us who make mistakes.

Giving grace can be easier said than done, especially if someone has really hurt us or we have really hurt someone else.

“See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” -Hebrews 12:15, The 5-Minute Bible Study for Difficult Times.

Bitterness towards ourselves or others can grow if we do not allow for grace in our lives.

As with many things it is often much easier to give someone else grace than it is to give it to ourselves, especially when we have made a mistake.

We are all harder on ourselves than we would ever be with other people in our lives.

We deserve grace for our mistakes as much as we give grace to those around us.

Grace does not mean we ignore the mistake. We need to learn from our mistakes.

However once we have learned our lesson. We need to put the stick down and stop beating ourselves up for the mistake.

Again easier said than done.

Pain and Anguish

“External things are not your problem. It’s your assessment of them. Which you can erase right now.” – Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, Book 8.47

Pain, stress, and anguish, are all negative emotions that come from how you perceive things.

If you don’t want to be harmed by something, you don’t have to be.

“Everywhere, at each moment, you have the option to accept the event with humility, to treat this person as he should be treated, and to approach this thought with care, so that nothing irrational creeps in.” – Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, Book 7.54.

No one has control over my thoughts and reactions but me.

I can choose to be serene and content.

I can choose to move on and never look back.

That’s much easier than it sounds.

We want to be right. We want other people to know we’re right.

But where does that get us?

Nowhere.

Keep going forward. Learn from your mistakes. Move on.

Accept people for who they are. Give them grace for their mistakes because at some point you made the same ones.