Self-pity is a deep, dark hole.
Something terrible has happened, and now we feel sorry for ourselves.
We think that we are the only one that this has happened to and everyone is talking about us.
Both of those thoughts are wrong.
Whatever has happened to you has happened to hundreds, thousands, if not millions of other people. It is definitely happening to someone else right now.
“That everything that happens is natural…That whatever happens has always happened, and always will.” – Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, Book 12.26
The number of people talking about you and your troubles are right around zero. How do I know?
Because you feel like your the center of attention and all eyes are on you, so does everyone else. They are too worried about themselves to worry about you.
Self-pity will make the problem worse. The more time you spend feeling sorry for yourself is less time you are spending on finding a solution.
Find some compassion for yourself and what you are going through. Talk to yourself like you would talk to a friend who is going through the same thing.
Don’t focus on why it happened. That never matters because you can’t change the past.
Don’t catastrophize the future. Whatever the outcome, it will never be as bad as you make it out to be.
Focus on how to respond to what is happening.
Don’t let your negative thoughts get in the way of finding a solution.
Don’t let your ego get in the way of looking at all the solutions, even ones you may not have considered before.
One day at a time. One foot in front of the other.
Keep going. Better days are ahead.