Be Good

“Not time for reading. For controlling your arrogance, yes. For overcoming pain and pleasure, yes. For outgrowing ambition, yes. For not feeling anger at stupid and unpleasant people – even for caring about them – for that yes.” – Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, Book 8:8

Marcus Aurelius was great. Was he perfect? No. Was he great every day? No. What makes him great was he was consistently good.

That’s what this quote reflects. He’s looking back on times where he was not good and reminding himself to be good.

Be good today. You don’t have to be great. Just good.

Consistency is what makes greatness. A string of good days is enough.

When you stumble, pick yourself up and dust yourself off, and be good the next time.

No one is perfect. To ask someone to be great all the time is a lesson in futility.

Look at anyone who is considered “great” they all stumbled.

Winston Churchill, without his leadership in World War II, would have been considered a failure.

“He destroyed his credibility through his advocacy of the disastrous Gallipoli campaign in World War I, policies on Ireland, mismanagement of the British economy during the interwar period, stubborn defense of the Nazi-sympathizing Edward VIII when he was forced from the throne, and most of all by his vitriolic and (even by the standards of the era) astonishingly bigoted opposition to Mahatma Gandhi and Indian independence.” – Gautam Mukunda, Churchill the Failure: The Paradoxical Truth About the Best and Worst Leaders

Churchill picked himself up and kept trying to be good. He didn’t always accomplish that, but he never stopped trying.

No one can be great every day. Good is even hard.

We look back on great politicians, athletes, and public figures and think they walked on water every day.

They all stumbled, but they kept going. They were good more often than they were great.

But they were good consistently.

Perfection

“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” – Anna Quindlen from the Holstee Welcome Guide

Stop worrying about being perfect and start worrying about being you.

“Excellence not perfection.” – Adam Grant

Stop being so hard on yourself when you make mistakes or things don’t go your way.

The only way not to make mistakes is to never do anything new.

If you don’t try anything new, then how do you grow, how do you learn, how do experience new things?

The short answer is you don’t. The price of life is learning to fail, learn, and move on.

Keep pushing but become ok with getting it wrong often.

Where you are now is where you are meant to be. Success comes from hard work and grit.

“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

Keep trying. Keep learning. Keep smiling.

It’s not easy, but in the long run it’s worth it.

Mistakes

“All men make mistakes, only wise men learn from their mistakes” -Winston Churchill.

Learning only comes from failure. We learn very little when things are going our way. We have to be uncomfortable to see any reason to change. Nothing can make you as uncomfortable as making a mistake.

“Forgive yourself of your faults and your mistakes and move on” – Les Brown

Once you have taken your mistake and learned from it, you have to let it go. There is a delicate balance between remembering your mistake so you don’t do it again and beating yourself up over it.

Self-forgiveness is difficult. We have a constant tape running in our head. Most times we are our own worst critics.

“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche.

When you screw up fall back on your why. Why do you do what you do? That is the North Star that will guide you back to your path.