There is so much hostility in the world right now.
We could all use a little more compassion towards others and ourselves.
Sympathy is feeling sorry for someone, which really isn’t helpful.
Empathy is a start. At least you are trying to understand what someone is going through.
Compassion is when you feel sympathy and empathy, AND you are actively doing something about it.
Most people, when confronted with someone who is generally concerned and wants to help, will at the very least lose some of their hostility.
“When we focus on others, we find motivation that is difficult to marshal for ourselves alone.” – Sheryl Sandberg, Option B, p. 97
Most people are more hostile in their own mind towards themselves than they would ever be to others. One mistake can elicit a torrent of negative thoughts.
“[Self-compassion] does not mean shirking responsibility for our past. It’s about making sure we don’t beat ourselves up so badly that we damage our future … Instead of thinking ‘if only I weren’t,’ we can think ‘if only I hadn’t’” – Sheryl Sandberg, Option B, p. 60-61
Self-compassion does not mean lowering your standards or making the same mistakes over and over. It means giving yourself a break when you do make a mistake.
Give yourself the grace you need to learn from your mistakes and move forward in a positive direction. The same grace you give other people.