Some of the worst scars are in our minds. Often they are self-inflicted.
They are the ones no one sees.
Past mistakes, the pain we have caused others, not living up to what the world expects from us.
We blame ourselves and others for what has happened to us.
“It feels easier to live life blaming other people for any tension you may feel in your mind…” – Yung Pueblo, Lighter, p. 63
It doesn’t matter who is to blame. Blame is like picking a scab. Blame will never let the wound heal.
How do we let these wounds heal?
Compassion for yourself and others.
We say things to ourselves we would never say to a friend that was going through the same thing.
We have to show ourselves the same compassion we show our friends.
It’s not easy. We all have a running monologue in our head, and often it is not very kind.
It starts with hopelessness. We have to be open to the present moment as it is not as we hope it would be.
However, we need to have hope it will get better in the future.
We can create hopelessness and hope by focusing on what we control.
“Healing is when you intentionally decrease the tension you carry in your mind.” – Yung Pueblo, Lighter, p. 34
Often we need to just pause. Acknowledge whatever thought or emotion we are having. Then let it go.
We have to give ourselves the space for these wounds to heal.
“This too shall pass.” – Persian quote
Whatever is happening is never as bad as we make it out to be in our minds.
It is usually not fatal. You will survive it.