Something bad happened. Who’s to blame?
Is that important?
So you have identified who’s to blame, is that going to change your situation?
The blame game never helps anyone solve a problem. It’s a waste of energy.
“You should not blame the gods for what happens in accordance with nature because they do nothing wrong either on purpose or by accident. You should not blame human beings either because they don’t do wrong on purpose. Blame no one.” – Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, Book 12.12
People make decisions in their own best interest. If it harms you, whether it is good or bad is your opinion.
“Our desires should be restrained, and our aversions should be limited to matters under our control.” – Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, Book 11.37
Blame wastes valuable time trying to rationalize why it happened.
It’s over. Why it happened doesn’t matter. It only matters what you’re going to do moving forward.
Amor Fati – “Not merely to bear what is necessary, still less conceal it….but love it.” – Friedrich Nietzsche
Accept what has happened. Breath. Be present. Calm.
Now make a plan to take what has happened and use it to your advantage.
You have lost your job. Take the time to figure out what is important and how you are going to use the time wisely to make your new life better.
A relationship ended. Take the time to evaluate what happened and use that information to make the other relationships in your life more meaningful.
The fact that you are alive is a miracle. Be grateful.
Don’t waste your time on blame. Use your time to be present and get better.