I have been working on myself using stoicism.
Step 1 focusing on what I can control.
I cannot control how anyone treats me. I can only control how I respond. No one can harm me without my permission.
Be present in the moment. The past is over. The future is unknowable.
Learn from the past but do not beat myself up over mistakes. Preparing for but not worrying about how the future will work out.
Taking calculated risks that could pay big dividends in the future, but trying not to predict how that risk will turn out.
We humans are horrible at predictions. Too many variables, to control for them all. Make the best decision you can with the information you have and let it ride.
Having courage to do what’s right. Fighting for justice for all. Practicing temperance. Striving for wisdom.
I have made progress but there is a long way to go. The journey will never end.