Confident Humility – Educational Stoic

“Ignorance more frequently begets confidence than does knowledge.” – Charles Darwin, Think Again, Adam Grant, p. 33.

The idea of confident humility was introduced by Adam Grant in his book, Think Again.

“Confident humility: having faith in our capability while appreciating that we may not have the right solution or even be addressing the right problem.” – Think Again, Adam Grant, p.47

This dichotomy has been a constant struggle in my life. It is a delicate balance.

My confidence has helped me succeed. It has often, however, bordered on hubris and been my downfall in some situations.

“As we gain experience, we lose some of our humility.” – Think Again, Adam Grant, p. 45.

Humility has also been a challenge. I have not had enough of it which explains the hubris.

I often have gone to the opposite extreme, using humility as a weapon on myself. Never thinking I am good enough.

“Although they have faith in their strengths, they’re also keenly aware of their weaknesses.” – Think Again, Adam Grant, p. 48.

I need to have confidence in my ability with the understanding I have a lot to learn.

I need to have the humility to know I have a lot to learn without berating myself over every mistake.

I also need to realize that my ability is only part of the story.

“Humility is mostly about being very honest about how much you owe to luck.” – Kevin Kelly

I have worked really hard to get where I am. To get here I have had to have the confidence to keep trying.

I am learning to have the humility to know where I am has also been about luck and being at the right place at the right time.

I am working on having the confidence to keep going after a setback and to be humble enough to continue to know the outcome is not always mine to determine.

“I learned from Maximus to do my duties quietly and without complaining, while being dignified and charming” – Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, Book 1.15.

What happened to leading from the front with humility? Not always looking for recognition. Never complaining about how hard you have it. Dealing with issues without looking for recognition or a pat on the back.

Now it seems every leader has to puff out their chest or announce every minor accomplishment on social media. It’s like the football player that has to celebrate every first down. Act like you’ve been there before.

In the classic Good to Great, Jim Collins discusses a Level 5 leader. A Level 5 leader has the combination of humility and indomitable will. Leaders who do whatever needs to be done to complete the job and don’t look for the credit.

In Think Again, Adam Grant describes confident humility, as “having faith in our capability while appreciating that we may not have the right solution or even addressing the right problem.” Leaders who believe in themselves but look to others for help in solving difficult problems.

Puffing out your chest with every accomplishment may feed your ego but will it inspire people to follow you? Maybe for a while but eventually they will get tired of you taking all the credit.

I am not saying leaders can’t celebrate the accomplishments of their team. The key word there is team. No one in leadership ever accomplished anything alone. Make it about those around you, not you.