“All men make mistakes, only wise men learn from their mistakes” -Winston Churchill.
Learning only comes from failure. We learn very little when things are going our way. We have to be uncomfortable to see any reason to change. Nothing can make you as uncomfortable as making a mistake.
“Forgive yourself of your faults and your mistakes and move on” – Les Brown
Once you have taken your mistake and learned from it, you have to let it go. There is a delicate balance between remembering your mistake so you don’t do it again and beating yourself up over it.
Self-forgiveness is difficult. We have a constant tape running in our head. Most times we are our own worst critics.
“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche.
When you screw up fall back on your why. Why do you do what you do? That is the North Star that will guide you back to your path.
I have been told no, more than I have been told yes. Job interview after job interview. “No. I am sorry. We have someone else in mind.” Discouraging doesn’t even scratch the surface at times.
It is hard to not to think that it’s me. I wasn’t good enough for that job or this job. For some jobs, maybe I wasn’t good enough. It can be demoralizing. Doubts. Second guessing the interviews. What could I have done better? The answer most of the time is nothing.
But look at where I am. I would not be where I am if I hadn’t dusted myself off every time I was told no and kept interviewing. Failure?
“The only failure is not to try.” – George Clooney
“The same thing holds true for a positive outlook, however. Color your mind with the right thoughts, color them with what’s possible, and then whatever you’re trying to do—whether it’s trying to start a company or salvage a relationship or lose twenty pounds or quit drinking or make partner at your law firm—you’ll be able to manage it.” Daily Stoic newsletter, April 26, 2021
I believe I am ready for the next step in my career. It is my job then to keep a positive outlook and to color my mind with what’s possible. Will I continue to be told no? 100%. I will not allow those voices to then become my internal voice.
I will continue to be me. I will continue to let others know what I believe, not what I think they want to hear. One day the right opportunity will come along, and I will be ready.
After I read Simon Sinek’s Start With Why I believe that before you do anything in life you need to know your why. Why did I start this blog? Well here it is.
I never saw myself as a writer. As a matter of fact I was your prototypical math/science kid. I didn’t enjoy reading or writing for pleasure. I saw it as something that I had to do to get good grades, and even then it was like pulling teeth. As I got older and was able to choose what I read, reading became a passion. Several years ago I was going through a rough time and turned to journaling to cope with my own emotions. I have written in my journal almost every day for the last 8 years and have found it very therapeutic. I have also found it very helpful in organizing my thoughts about what I believe in life and education. Just recently as the Executive Director of Human Resources, I have started an internal “blog” to our entire staff to try to help them stay positive in these uncertain times. I try to incorporate what I am reading and my own writing style. These emails got me thinking that maybe I could spread some of this positivity to a wider audience and share my ideas about education in this time of huge change.
I am not sure where this blog will go. I’m writing this blog because I’m passionate about education, and I have some ideas that I think will help make students become inquirers and empower them to take control of their own learning. I don’t know if I will say anything profound or if my ideas are worthwhile. I would love to know what you think.